Participant in a Miscarriage Study on Facebook. Originally posted in Facebook on the 8th of August 2011
K. from the United States filled out the Miscarriage Questionnaire. She added in the notes the following and requested a reading on her miscarriages: 6 Miscarriages in total. Lost 1st, 3rd, 4th, 5th, 6th, and 7th pregnancy. My 2nd and 8th pregnancy resulted in two beautiful girls. The miscarriages were a result of me having a balanced translocation.
A chromosomal translocation is a condition in which part of a chromosome has broken off and reattached in another location…In a balanced translocation, a person usually has all the genetic material necessary for normal growth — a piece of a chromosome is merely broken off and attached to another one. However, when that person’s cells divide to create egg or sperm cells for reproduction, the egg or sperm cells can end up with extra genetic material or missing genetic material, which could lead to miscarriage depending on which chromosome and genes are affected. (About.com)
K. is special. She was special all her life. Her parents saw her as a gift, a miracle due to her illness. They took such good care of her and gave her everything to the point that K. believed that she could get anything she wanted. I would have to say she once was spoiled. I feel she also married someone who kept her in her prevliaged situation.
All these conditions built her up to her real lesson in life. Dealing with not getting everything she wanted in life. The song “You cant always get what you want, but if you try sometimes, well you might find, you get what you need.” by the Rolling Stones comes to mind and I think that this is what K. ended up learning. It is a very difficult lesson especially from a privileged life. But it put K. life into perspective.
I have a feeling that in a past life K. was the opposite. She got nothing and always swore that one day she will have anything. But having everything is not the secret of life. Those who have everything normally are the saddest and most alone. The secret is to find balance with what you have and what you don’t have. It was a lesson that K.’s soul needed to learn and has learned the hard way. K. is very appreciative for every little thing she finds pleasure from and does not take it for granted anymore.
With regards to those miscarriages, I feel that they were planned and therefore not a shock to the soul and body. I truly believe that everything with regards to the miscarriage and pregnancy went according to some plan and the souls are the same ones that came in and out. Each miscarriage and the resulted recovery was in accordance with what K. needed to learn. After each miscarriage, K. came to some kind of understanding that brought her to the point (second birth) where she is she was supposed to be (and remains today) and was rewarded for all the hardships with the beautiful child (both in and out).