Participant in a Miscarriage Study on Facebook. Originally posted in Facebook on the 14th of August 2011
V. from Canada writes “Well it was shocking to learn that I even got pregnant, as I am very overweight, I have PCOS and thyriod problems …then even harder to learn that it was a miscarriage. This would have been my first baby for myself, and second for my boyfriend. He has a wonderful 4 year old daughter who I get to see grow up when we have her over.
V. is sad today. Things are good but not like she expected them to be. She saw her life differently and still wishes it could be like she saw it. With her big dreams of making it big, being thin and in the limelight. She lives her life today in the shadows of her dream life. She wishes she had a different job, a different boyfriend, a different life. Not hers. She is somewhat aware that it is all a dream and knows that her life is good for what it is but somewhere deep inside she wishes it was different.
A child could not and should not enter such a life. He needs to be in the real world and have his mother see him/her for what he is or isn’t. And be accepting him as he is. Not wanting the child to be different and as a mother pretending it could some how fit in the imaginary perfect life.
The miscarriage was a sign that things are not always what they seem and at the same time they are what they are. I not sure what this means but I have a feeling V. does. V. needs to grow up and stop living in her “soup opera” fantasy world and live in her own wholeheartedly. I feel that the miscarriage is a wake-up call to get in touch with your body and yourself. I think that V. needs to be more alert to her body and its REAL needs. Proper food, more love towards it and less booze. I think she should respect it as hers and not imagine it is something else. Once she begins with her body she will move on to recognizing and respecting her true spirit and self and be properly accepting of who she is in her real life. She has a good life, but chooses not to totally see it or be in it.
With regards to whether she will conceive again. I would only be able to see after she makes the proper changes. I do feel that there is a soul waiting and observing her. It is the same soul that caused the miscarriage. It looks over her and protects her while sending commands to other guides and spirits surround V. And if the time is right, that spirit will be born and bring proper peace into V.’s life. As it is meant to do.
V. you have a lot of work ahead of you in releasing you dream world and accepting your good real one. Begin with accepting and listening to your body, and it will naturally progress to the rest of your world. You have a good man besides you who loves you for who you are, it’s time you recognize him for who he really is and not who you imagine him to be. I see a bright future for you but a real future, not a fantasy one.